Kemi Olunloyo has been speaking to International Businesss Times U.K, on her circumcision as a baby girl,but frankly,i will take anything this woman says with a pinch of salt.But if she really did go through this like thousands if not millions of women in Africa,female genital mutilations is a terrible thing that needs to be totally eradicated.
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Many women, are NOT willing to speak about their experience with FGM (Female Genital Mutilation). Kemi was only 5-years-old when her family took her and her sister to visit an old man, in Oyo State, who made them lay on his laps "and then cut part of our vagina and clitoral area off." .
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Nearly 50 years later, memories of the encounter are still vivid in her mind. "There was no anaesthetic and a sharp razor blade was used. I remember my sister and I screaming afterwards. .
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We went home bleeding. Deep down, mom was not happy for some reason," Olunloyo told IBTimes UK. After years of resentment towards her mother, she finally confronted her in 2012. .
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"She burst into tears telling me that our late paternal grandma ordered my dad to have us do it," she explained. Some women and girls who undergo FGM, have their entire genitalia cut and "sewn closed." Olunloyo's genitalia were only partially removed, meaning she did not experience difficulties while giving birth.
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However, the psychological and physical consequences of the mutilation still linger in her life. "It was a cultural barbaric act used to decrease the female libido. It caused me post-traumatic stress disorder for life," she said.
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"I don't experience orgasm during sex and when I tried to promote the use of sex toys among Nigerian women, men started attacking me saying I was discouraging African women 'from the real thing'.
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Sex is not important. I have no libido or urge to have sex and I've been celibate for 10 years. Millions of women in Nigeria go through this, but they cannot talk or be outspoken like me. It is shameful and a disgrace to them.
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Many women say they fake orgasms and others have husbands who go out to prostitutes and girlfriends. FGM has destroyed marriages here. My message to girls who have been through it is to stay strong and get into support groups. .
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I'd like to be a UN Ambassador and travel around Africa forming support groups to teach girls sex education, instead of cutting part of their genitals off, causing a lifelong traumatic problem," she concluded.
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